Thinking, Reading, and Living “Worldviewishly”

Introduction

The one thing that I don’t do on this blog is “ambulance chase”. I know for some, it’s tempting to “cash in” on recent horrific events that have occurred, and now fills the airwaves, be it news, blogs, and, heaven forbid, political speeches. I believe it’s unfortunate, and says something about our society, that we don’t start “thinking” about things seriously until major crises cause us to stop and reflect. The downside of such a modus operandi is that little “thinking” is done, but a crap-load of reactivity fills the air, particularly from newscasts, talk shows, and politicians.

We hear a lot these days about the notion of worldviews: a Western worldview versus an Eastern worldview; a Christian worldview versus an atheistic worldview; an individualist worldview versus a collectivist worldview, and so on. During the Cold War, there was a worldview in front of and behind the Iron Curtain. But what exactly is a worldview? My purpose for this blog is to explore that question, as well as to encourage people to think, read, and live worldviewishly. Rather than merely reacting to the world and its events, which at times do shake us to the core, is it possible that we can we develop some understanding about the world and the people in it prior to events that come at us? If so, perhaps we can lay a foundation in thinking that allows us to understand what we encounter in life. Can we develop a core that, instead of crumbling, stands the test of the storms of life?

In the discussion that follows, I’m indebted to the work of James W. Sire and many of the books he’s authored. Specifically related to this blog, I draw from his two works, The Universe Next Door and Naming the Elephant, primarily the former. I will utilize Sire’s definition of worldview, as well as the seven questions he delineates that we can ask so as to understand one’s worldview. But there’s a larger question than merely defining and outlining ways we can possibly understand other people’s worldviews. Sire addresses this head-on in his works. We can think and read worldviewishly, as Sire says; however, we also have to live our worldviews. And in fact we do, whether or not we are aware of it. Going beyond mere description, I hope this blog leads one to question his or her worldview and consciously shape it so as to live it out. One of the tough questions of life is whether or not we align what we do or act with what we claim to know. Knowing and doing are two sides of the same coin. If what we’re doing, i.e. how we are living, does not align with what we claim to know or believe, then either we truly don’t understand what we know, or we are simply lost in self-deception.

Rather than reacting to life and following like little lost sheep our favorite talk-show host, politician, or some other guru who claims to have answers to life for us, let’s do the hard work of shaping our own thought, becoming aware, and living out what we claim to believe or know.

Defining Worldview

I believe it was T. S. Eliot who said, minor poets emulate, great poets steal. So I’m going to cop James W. Sire’s definition of worldview from his work, The Universe Next Door. (Since I’m at least referencing him, perhaps he will forgive me my theft.) Sire’s definition contains several components I want to delineate. But first let’s look at his definition:

A worldview is a commitment, a fundamental orientation of the heart, that can be expressed as a story or in a set of presuppositions (assumptions which may be true, partially true, or entirely false) which we hold (consciously or subconsciously, consistently or inconsistently) about the basic constitution of reality, and that provides the foundation on which we live and move and have or being. [p. 17].

This lengthy and rich definition is one that we must unpack. We can glean several components from what Sire has spelled out: commitment; orientation of the heart; expressed in a story or set of presuppositions; held consciously or subconsciously; open to critique as being true or not; lived consistently or inconsistently; and a foundation on which we live out our lives.

Commitment

A worldview that one holds reaches deep into the core of his or her being. It is a matter of the heart in that one’s worldview entails one’s mind, emotion, and will. Hopefully, our worldview is one on which we build wisdom, that is knowledge and understanding applied to living skillfully, fruitfully, and fully. Sire comments, a worldview is situated in the self – the central operating chamber of every human being. Our worldview is such that we say, I’m committed to thus and thus; this is on what I stand. Our worldview is our channel to how we answer the question: How should I then live?

Expressed in A Story or Set of Presuppositions

When we think about how we would describe our worldview to others, obviously we use the tool of language. We may use the tool of narrative, expressing what we believe in some form of a story that makes sense to us. Likewise, we may draw on some form of logic to express what we believe in an interrelated set of presuppositions. Expressed in propositional form, a worldview is our statement about how we make sense of the world, our place in it, and our relationship to others who populate our world. With our worldview, we seek to make meaning of our existence.

Assumptions Which May Be True, Conscious, or Consistent

The notion of a worldview being true, partially true, or entirely false entails that we leave open our worldview to critique. Such an act sounds easy, but it is exceedingly difficult. To critique our worldview involves our capability to step back from our view of things, critically appraise them, and possibly look at them from other viewpoints. How do I step out of my worldview to accomplish such a task? Rather than the entire worldview, we may have questions about various components of our take on existence. To alter certain components of a worldview, however, can lead to minor or major shifts in our thinking. Questioning, analyzing, and critical inquiry allows us to do such assessment. The importance and the will to do so, however, may be built into our very worldview. If our worldview is closed to critical inquiry, then we are trapped in a maze of subjectivity.

It would be comforting if all of us were fully aware of what we believed. As finite human beings, that simply does not appear to be the case. Many times it takes experiences that shake up our thinking to discover that we are not living the way we thought we were. Other people, as well, can point out to us, or at least question us regarding our consistency with what we claim to believe. These experiences, too, call for our being open to our willingness to question, analyze, and assess. Knowing and doing is a powerful dynamic in life. The recognition that we are living out what we claim to know provides a powerful sense of fulfillment. Likewise, becoming aware of those times when we are not consistent in doing what we claim to know, allows us a corrective. Moreover, such awareness may lead to our questioning the foundations of our worldview, which, in turn, can lead to worldview shifts.

The Foundation on Which We Live

Again, knowing and doing is a powerful dynamic in life. Our worldview, as Sire points out, may not be exactly what we think it is. No doubt, however, what we show in our words and actions has much to declare about our worldview. Our worldview is the foundation off which we act and move through life. Personal and private analysis of our worldview must begin with profound reflection on how we actually behave. I personally believe there is nothing more disturbing than when I realize that I’m living in a disconnect with what I claim to believe and hold as true.

Thinking, Reading, and Living Worldviewishly

In this technological age, we encounter people from all over the globe who live in different cultures, with totally different backgrounds, values, and language. We also consume an extraordinary amount of books, magazines, blog articles, movies, plays, as well as all the various art forms from painting, photography, to sculpture. How do we think about all the worldviews that form the foundation of what people think, say, and do? Or do we think about it all? Rather than merely defining worldview, I hope this blog encourages readers to think, read, and live worldviewishly. James W. Sire, in his book, The Universe Next Door, provides seven questions we can ask, not only about our own worldview, but also about other people’s worldviews as they proffer what they theorize, hypothesize, think, as well as how they act and live out what they believe.

The questions Sire puts forth are as follows: 1) What is prime reality – the really real? 2) What is the nature of external reality, that is, the world around us? 3) What is a human being? 4) What happens to a person at death? 5) Why is it possible to know anything at all? 6) How do we know right from wrong? 7) What is the meaning of human history?

Most philosophers, theologians, ethicists, artists, and others may not have an answer for all these questions, but they most likely have considered some of them in detail. Indeed, systems of thought seek to answer these questions in some systemic and logical manner. The questions cover the gamut of philosophical thought that people have asked from the docks and streets to the ivory tower of academics. Ontology, identity of nature, anthropology, death and finitude, epistemology, and understanding of history are all covered by these seven questions. And they are questions we can ask as we talk with others, read what others write, think, and say, as well as recognizing how they live. They are questions we can ask about our own take on existence as well. Then there are those uncomfortable questions: How am I living? Does what I do align with what I claim to believe? If not, how should I then live? Knowing and doing – how do we put it togehter? These questions, as well as others, can help us think, read, and live worldviewishly.

Conclusion

No doubt, Sire’s discussion and what I’ve said here are couched in a worldview. We cannot escape our worldview, even to think about, discuss, and act on our and other people’s worldviews. Hopefully, this blog will encourage readers to reflect upon, contemplate, and delineate their personal view of existence. I believe if we have a solid understanding of what we believe, how we think about the world and others, and how we grasp the major questions of life, then we might be less reactive when we encounter horrific events. Moreover, we can begin to think for ourselves rather than jumping on the bandwagon of newscasters, talk-show hosts, and politicians. My personal worldview calls us out to embrace the freedom to think about our own lives, shape our worldviews as consciously, with as much awareness as possible, and to live them out as consistently as we know how. All the time, however, we remain open to critique, analysis, and further understanding. From my worldview, such a process is called personal and spiritual growth.

John V. Jones, Jr, PH.D., LPC-S/June 14th, 2016

GENERAL ESSAY

The Heart & the Mind in Reading

Introduction

I have a confession to make. I am addicted to reading. There is no better way I like to spend my time, leisure or otherwise, than exploring the pages of a book. I’ll take a plunge into anything I can get my hands on that has to do with ideas, creativity, imagination, or critical inquiry. I devour books on a consistent basis, taking in poetry and prose fiction, as well as non-fiction essays, well-researched biographies, philosophy, science, theology and Christian thought. In a word, I love to read, research, and study the history of ideas. Most of all, I enjoy delving into the mind of various thinkers to explore how they used their creativity and imagination to derive their theories. What were the roads they traveled to reach certain conclusions? What were the experiences they encountered and barriers they faced in shaping their thought? What difficulties and nagging doubts did they have to work through to get to where they got? What fortuitous events played in contributing to their creativity and discovery? I could go on and on because since reading has become such a habit for me, I find myself at times in what Csikszentmihalyi Mihaly describes as flow, sitting with a book deep into midnight and the early morning hours without noticing how much time has passed.

For 25 plus years, I also have worked as a professor. Teaching at the university level was a goal I set for myself many years ago, and through sinuous paths eventually reached my target. I have discovered, however, that reaching one goal is only a starting point for many other ventures. I believe my paths will always take me into the history of thought, and the impact that ideas have had on people across history. From my perspective, being a good prof entails taking complex information and breaking it down into more simplified forms so that students can digest it. That does not mean over-simplifying information, but clarifying it in ways that students can take it in, process it, and hopefully be encouraged to explore it at deeper levels. Even apparent simple information may rest on a ton of unexplored premises. What is meaningful for me is getting at the ideas and thoughts that lie behind certain claims to truth. Such work I could not do if I didn’t thoroughly enjoy reading the way I do, or if I didn’t form the critical habits that go hand-in-hand with directed reading and analyzing information. I consider such a life of reading, studying, and teaching to be my calling. There is an exhilaration that goes with reading and studying that I believe emerges from both the heart and the mind. Much too often, these two ways of experiencing life are placed in conflict with one another. This blog article explores the heart and the mind and their relationship to reading and studying. How do these two aspects of our being human contribute to what goes into the effort after understanding, and how do they explain an individual’s passion for knowledge and wisdom?

Reading Directs Thinking versus Thinking Directs Reading

There’s reading. And then, there is reading – study, analysis, critical inquiry, determining whether or not what an author says holds together. Even if an author makes a good case, do I agree with his or her position or not? Why or why not? Does a theorist’s claims align with, alter, or expand on how I see and understand things? Although now and then I enjoy relaxing with my detective and other kinds of light fiction, the more critical type of reading is what I pursue most of my time. There are more books than one can imagine that delineate different ways, methods, and techniques of how to read and study. Method and techniques applied to reading, while important, are areas I want to explore in the near future. For now, on this blog, what I want to touch on is the notion of how both the heart and the mind hold a place in an effort after knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. Some might ask: are not the heart and the mind at odds in such pursuits? This discussion revolves around an approach to Biblical reading called Lectio Divina, a topic for another blog. At this point, suffice it to say that such an approach to reading was developed fully in the Middle Ages to get at the meaning of Biblical texts in the pursuit to know God. I first came across these ideas on reading through Christian writer James Sire’s, Habits of the Mind. Sire addresses the apparent conflict that has raged across the ages, the clash between reading with the heart versus reading with the mind. He designates these ways of reading respectively as Reading Directs Thinking versus Thinking Directs Reading. To pursue a life of reading and study in the manner that Sire discusses, one must develop what he calls a habit of mind. Much of what I discuss on this blog I take from Sire’s work.

Many who practice Lectio Divina will not accept much of what I’ll say in this article about this approach to reading. Historically, Lectio Divina has been approached as a mystical encounter with a Biblical text. Although I do not discount such experiences, I prefer Sire’s position that addresses the need to combine head with heart rather than pitting them against one another. As a Christian, I would rather approach Lectio Divina as both an encounter with Scripture (Reading Directs Thinking) and as an approach to studying the text (Thinking Directs Reading) to get at its meaning, what the author seeks to convey, and what implications the text has for living out one’s life. Both habits of reading, I believe, go hand-in-hand, rather than being antithetical to one another. Sire points out that in the Middle Ages, monastics and scholastics were at odds regarding Biblical reading and study. When the monastics emphasize the habit of Reading Directs Thinking at the expense of the other, the scholastics believed they unwittingly fell into a personal and radical subjective mysticism that could not be held in check regarding the truth of Scripture. When the scholastics exercised the habit of Thinking Directs Reading over the former, monastics believed they instituted a cold scholasticism, an intellectualized Christendom that lacked the Biblical emphasis of humility leading to understanding and wisdom. Note, however, that with either position both reading and thinking are involved. The scholastic scholars believed the monastics, however, handed thinking and rationality the short end of the stick. The monastic monks countered that the scholastic scholars viewed Biblical texts as just another object of study without any implications for one’s life. Such distinctions may mean little to those who do not profess Christianity. But for those of us who do, how do we combine head and heart in approaching Biblical texts?

Reading Directs Thinking. When Reading Directs Thinking, the reader encounters the text, takes it in, so to speak, and breathes in the text so as to live it outwardly. The meaning of the text addresses the core – the heart – of the reader who seeks to garner meaning from the text. Readers draw on their own experience as they engage the written words. Texts are read repetitively, slowly, thoughtfully, and reverently. This type of reading draws on our memory because the words we read we have read before. We have a previous understanding of what they mean based on our repetitive reading of the texts. The experience of reading is a personally contextualized one, and what we encounter  impacts us through an inner spirituality. Those who seek to let Reading Direct Thinking speak of a text as staying with them, haunting them, revitalizing them, or refreshing them. The monastics would have no part of the Scholastics’ efforts to analyze, critique, and systematize their understanding of various texts, particularly Biblical texts. The monastics viewed such endeavors as antithetical to spiritual formation. No doubt, however, mysticism led to a disparagement of the mind in the development of theology and Christian thought. An emphasis on rationality was suspect to these monks who set rationality against spirituality. The monastics valued what they regarded as the heart’s way of knowing.

Thinking Directs Reading. When Thinking Directs Reading, one engages serious study of a text. We study a text to mine it for information, to gain perspective, to obtain reflective insight, to see the text in its proper context, and to hopefully garner from the text what it sets for us to understand, and how it calls for us to live. The Scholastics were reading Biblical texts to learn the truth. Their take on understanding involved a highly rational approach to study. They did not care to track with the monastics and what the scholastic scholars viewed as an extreme mysticism. These scholastic scholars, such as Thomas Aquinas and those who came after him during the Reformation, used a variety of methods, tools, and historical contexts to study and exegete the text. Through the centuries, Biblical study methods have continued to develop through such efforts as the study of original languages, (Greek, Hebrew, Aramaic, etc.), and the field of textual criticism. No doubt, excessive scholasticism contributed its share to an intellectualized theology that sought to reconcile Christian ideas with philosophical categories rather than seeking to answer philosophical questions via Christian thought. These scholars emphasized a form of rationalism that could lead to intellectual understanding without spiritual formation. The Scholastics valued what they regarded as the mind’s way of knowing.

There is a need to heal the tear between the heart and the mind. I think this is particularly true regarding Biblical texts. If we are to read so as to build knowledge, to gain understanding, to acquire wisdom, and to discover truth, we must study, analyze, and critique, using all the critical tools available to carry out our tasks. Additionally, we must also accept the fact that texts mysteriously engage and touch us on a deep level, passionately speaking to us regarding how we are presently living our lives, showing us how we should be living our lives day-to-day, and forcefully challenging and convicting us toward acting on what we understand to be true. The separation of these two approaches is tantamount to dissecting the mind from the heart, soul, or spirit. It is taking the human being, placing him under a microscope, dissecting his parts, and never putting him back together again.

Conclusion

Sire rightly, I believe, views the monastic-scholastic split, the heart versus the mind, as a false dichotomy. From a Biblical perspective he points to the greatest commandment, Matthew 22:37: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and with all your mind. Sire speaks to the need to combine the heart and the mind. Whether it’s reading Biblical texts or poetry, prose, and non-fiction, Sire holds, and I agree with him, that we can approach various texts, encounter them, enter them, yet back away and critique and study them. Reading without study can lead us to miss important meanings in the text. Study without passionately confronting the text can lead to a cold intellectualism that can, in turn, lead to our overlooking the impact that a text has for our lives. For next month’s blog article, I will delve into the six-point technique that Sire describes in his approach to Lectio Divina, as well as his recommendations for how to combine heart and mind in reading, sharing his examples of various texts to approach and study.

Does Reading Direct Thinking, or does Thinking Direct Reading? There is a tension here that I think we must simply hold onto and embrace, seeking not to dichotomize the two approaches, and to avoid rending the heart from the mind. Perhaps Pascal’s quote holds this tension best: The heart has reasons that reason cannot understand. In Scripture we read constantly about the heart and the mind, as well as the soul and the spirit. What do the words, mind, heart, soul, and spirit really mean in describing the human being? What part do they play in our reasoning, gaining knowledge, and living wisely? Perhaps rationality alone will not answer such questions for us. But for those of you who love to read, reflect on how you approach texts that you enjoy reading.  Ponder how and why you find personal meaning in reading and studying certain texts. Choose some short passages over the next month and read them repetitively, attending to them closely. Become aware of how your understanding of them might develop as your read them slowly, attentively, and repetitively. Then think about those texts you have read and choose those into which you would more deeply like to delve so as to analyze them more closely. Utilize any tools you find necessary for your study – historical contexts, lexicons, word studies, commentaries, language tools, etc. Such an approach to texts is for those who love to read, study, analyze, and critique, so as to accrue a deeper understanding of what they read, to obtain meaning from what they read, and to garner something regarding the truth.

John V. Jones, Jr., PH.D., LPCS/May 14th, 2016

GENERAL ESSAY

The Quest for Meaning: Part III

[This discussion is the third of a three-part exploration of the human capacity for meaning-making. This article also continues a series I began in October, 2015. The series of articles as projected into the future will cover various themes that I explore with clients within the counseling framework I practice.]

– – Commit all your work to the Lord, and he will establish your plans. (Proverbs 16:3)

Introduction

I believe that one of the major struggles for our lives entails our finding meaning and purpose in our day-to-day living. People might experience the Proverb that I quoted to introduce this discussion on meaning making in a variety of ways. Some people might wonder why plan at all. Other people might ask: What is my part in the struggle of living? Although I believe the Proverb allows for rest, it does not provide an excuse for irresponsibility, lack of planning, or slothfulness of any kind. There’s a commitment to what one believes, and in the case of the Proverb, in whom one believes, and then there follows the day-to-day planning out of how one lives. There’s an ultimate promise, but there is nothing included in that promise that offers a guarantee that one’s day-to-day journey will be smooth sailing. The working out of life involves our daily grind of carrying out our plans, while being committed to our values, and facing the experiences that life throws at us. I firmly believe that it is through these hour-by-hour, day-by-day, and year-to-year experiences that we come to understand how we make meaning of our existence. Our mind is a wonderful tool to help us reflect upon, embrace, and make sense of our experiences. Yet we can use our mind to do something else that can take us off track of our journey. We can easily get lost in the search for abstractions, what I call in the quest for meaning, the search for the Big M.

The Big M

Have you ever been There? You know, that place everyone is trying to reach. I’m not sure where There is, but it has some seemingly common characteristics. It’s a place where I no longer have to strive, work, or struggle. It’s a place where everything will be answered, and I’ll have no more questions. It’s a place where I no longer have to fear anything at all or be concerned about the vicissitudes of life. I will have arrived. I’ll be There. As a Christian although I believe in a place of faith and rest, I do not believe that any such place as There exists for our human experience – not on this side of life anyway. Nor do I believe that we are promised such a life. On the contrary, I believe that meaning, rather than being some ultimate discovery that resolves every question about life, can be achieved through our daily tasks of living. I can find meaning in the moment – just living, breathing, seeing the beauty of nature, enjoying the day, relaxing in the moment, and reflecting on simply being alive. But more importantly, I can find meaning in the way I face my daily grind of living and seek to make sense of the experiences that life brings my way, those enjoyable, as well as those that are painful. When I seek to live out what I claim to believe and value, both failing and accomplishing that day-to-day, I can begin to make meaning of what it is to carve out a life.

When our quest for meaning, however, becomes the search for the ultimate, one-time discovery – the Big M – it can become a frustrating and disturbing quest indeed. We all know and have heard various metaphors: the proverbial pot of gold; the secret oracle that sums up all life’s questions; the miracle that removes all problems of living from one’s calendar. The search for the giant M in the sky will frustrate people for the simple reason that the nagging question tends to hang on as to whether or not they have, in fact, discovered the right M. Viktor Frankl spoke, instead, about meaning being an achievement that we carve out through our day-to-day struggles. The Book of Proverbs and Ecclesiastes address the need to seek for and acquire wisdom for living. The problem with the Big M is that it too easily becomes an empty abstraction. No doubt I can say that I find meaning through my family, friendships, work, art, community, etc. Such statements can entail day-to-day concrete experiences, or they can be meaningless and empty abstractions. I can make the summation that, I find deep meaning in my career. But how does that summation unfold in the hours I pour into my work that, in fact, leads to something meaningful and purposeful? Is it something I merely say that lacks evidence that my work is truly meaningful? Even as a Christian, I can make the claim, I find meaning ultimately in God. Such a statement can indeed be truly meaningful to the person who makes it. But do I carry it out in a day-to-day realization? If not, then such a statement, as pious as it sounds, can be as empty as any other abstraction that has no connection with living.

As Frankl puts it, I can encounter the daily tasks of living as drudgery, something merely to get through, or as meaningful experiences that hold something to teach me about living. That is not to say that all experiences are of equal value, but they are all part of our living. How we face them and carry them out says much about our mind – our attitude toward living, our modus operandi of  how we approach the tasks of life. I believe the most important contribution to our meaningful existence entails clarifying what we indeed believe in our heart-of-hearts, what we truly value, and then living in alignment with what we claim. Such a way of living seems to me to address the notion of fulfillment and joy, knowing that life will involve all the crazy and sinuous paths that will challenge what we claim to believe while also helping us adjust our compasses of how we go about life.

The Big M is a trap. Be aware of it. Be leery of it. Abstractions without concrete realizations, rather than having meaning, are empty of meaning.

Conclusion

As I reflect on this three-part series on the quest for meaning, I purposely have framed the discussion to encourage anyone to step into the journey for the quest for meaning. I hope to embolden anyone to, indeed, ask the bold questions about meaning, purpose, core beliefs, and values. These are not easy questions, yet I firmly believe facing them brings something important to living that we would otherwise miss if we chose simply not to ask such questions. There are in fact those who claim to believe that life is meaningless and absurd, as Albert Camus has stated in his writings. Yet Camus’ rebellion, even if he believed that it added up to no more than his concrete life, is a telling tale. [In one of James Sire’s works, he speaks of Camus, before his untimely death, as entertaining some serious questions about the existence of God.] People may believe, or want to believe, in the absurdity of existence; however, they appear to find it difficult to live consistently that abstraction with their day-to-day existence, whether it be toward their work, art, or loved ones. The fact that they place value into something or someone speaks to people’s need for meaning.

John V. Jones, Jr., PH.D., LPC-S/April 14, 2016

GENERAL ESSAY

 

The Quest for Meaning: Part II

[This discussion is the second of a three-part exploration of the human capacity for meaning-making. This article also continues a series I began in October, 2015. The series of articles as projected into the future will cover various themes that I explore with clients within the counseling framework I practice.]

It is not what we require of life that matters, but what life requires of us. – – Viktor Frankl

Introduction

If you had to reflect for a while, and then try to put into words what it is that enables you to think of life as meaningful, what words would you find that would satisfactorily express your response? Last month I stated that I believe we are meaning-making creatures. Our minds are created in such a way that we seek to make meaning of our various experiences. Moreover, we prioritize and hold dear what we garner from life that is most meaningful for us. In this month’s blog, I want to add that I believe that much of our meaning on a deep level comes through the struggles we face, the difficulties we work thorough, and suffering that we might encounter. That is not to say that meaning cannot come through other measures; it can and does. In fact, I think meaning can come through the simple pleasures we experience day-to-day. Most importantly, that is not to say that we should hope for difficulties and struggles in our lives. That would be masochistic. For each of us, however, struggles of various kinds tend to be part of our lives. When they occur, the question becomes: What do we do with them?

The Hard Work of Meaning-Making

Using our mind, if we’re to do it properly, is hard work. I’ve seen it time and time again as a professor and a professional counselor, how difficult it is for people to explicate their core values and beliefs about life. In Christian settings as well, it is difficult for many to state how being a Christian informs all aspects of their lives. We tend to separate our spiritual beliefs from the rest of living, our education from any life goals we pursue, and our core values tend to be segmented into such categories as work, family, entertainment, and church.

We encounter the world in a multitude of ways and through a variety of experiences. By our very nature, we use our mind to evaluate our experiences, interpret them, and attribute meaning to them. Our understanding of life’s experiences happens on many levels. When asked about meaningful experiences, most people reflect on those that hold what they would consider deep meaning for them, those that lead to experiences of passion, fulfillment, and joy. Likewise individuals who work through experiences of struggles and pain point to such experiences as carrying profound lessons and meaning for them. Indeed, some would say that those events in life that entail facing and working through struggles and suffering of some kind can provide the most profound understanding of what life requires of us. Such experiences are ones that raise questions and doubts, and they strongly engage our beliefs and values by which we claim to live.

As I will address in next month’s blog, I don’t consider meaning-making to be simply about finding the one Big M, in terms of some abstraction. Because I strongly believe that life involves constant learning, I likewise believe that our meaning-making is a continuous life-long journey. And although some experiences are more profound for us than others, our making sense of life involves how we take in all the day-to-day experiences of living. Usually, making meaning of various experiences of our lives comes through some type of reflection. Reflecting back on experiences, both painful and joyful, can bring a sense of deeper understanding, as well as the reality that we may have to remain open for quite some time before understanding of some events in our lives comes. There may be experiences in our lives of which we will never make total sense.

Meaning-making comes through those times we put aside for prayer, contemplation, and reflection. It’s not, nor should not be, something we can do every minute of everyday. Such ruminating would lead to our being stuck in a mental quicksand. Some people, however, do not take the time to reflect on life in such a way. Meaning-making is hard. It can lead us to think about things we would rather not. Sizing up those areas in our lives that we feel good about, and those where we think we’re lacking can bring discomfort, a feeling of uneasiness. It’s difficult work at times to become clear, authentic, and truthful about our basic premises, core values, and whether or not we’re living in alignment with all we claim to believe.

Challenges in the Search for Meaning
As I’ve stated before in other articles from this blog, one person in the 20th Century who has contributed to my thoughts on meaning-making is Viktor Frankl. Frankl developed his thought on the importance of meaning-making via his experiences of interment in Nazi concentration camps. His ground-breaking work that explored his personal experiences, Man’s Search for Meaning, emphasizes that in their life journey, people can find meaning in even the most seemingly meaningless and absurd situations. Clients enter counseling many times facing what they feel as a meaningless and absurd existence. As a professional counselor who is a Christian, I do not hold that existence is meaningless and absurd. Yet I recognize that one’s experience of life as such is real to them. There are no platitudes or simplistic answers or formulas to easily and quickly resolve such struggles for clients. The complexities we face in life will assault our beliefs and core values. Life has a way of challenging us, raising doubts, leading us to re-evaluate things, and making us question what we claim to believe and know, if indeed we’re open for such challenges. I believe all people can deepen their understanding of their lives. I also think that such deepening most likely entails the necessity for courage and strength, that I personally believe is garnered through grace. But that’s a far cry from simplistic answers that negate the profound complexities we face in life.

Conclusion

What am I not saying? As touched on in the introduction, we need not go looking for problems, difficulties, and suffering so as to deepen our understanding of life. On various levels for all of us, those encounters tend to come on their own. No masochism here, please. Likewise, I’m not saying that profound meaning cannot occur in the most simplistic of experiences. Those pleasurable things that may occur for us in our day-to-day existence can bring some form of personal meaning. I remember the first time I drove alone from Texas to Durango, Colorado. Coming upon and driving through the Rockies was indeed a memorable and profound experience. Personally, I’m very aware that my life has, for the most part, been free of suffering. I’m blessed indeed. I would prefer to keep it that way, but I do not have that much control of life. And it’s a rather hubris-filled notion to believe that I should. Every time I read Frankl’s, Man’s Search for Meaning, I always cannot help but question: Could I make it through such horrific events? Countless people throughout history, and individuals I know presently, have born witness as to how suffering deepens their understanding of life, and what is truly valuable and meaningful. All I can do is state the principle that I’ve heard time and again. I want to say I believe it, but for me, personally, I’m not sure what I would be made of in such contexts. And quite frankly, I don’t want to find out. Perhaps, and I think rightly, that is what grace is all about.

How we make meaning of our lives gets at our worldview, our take on existence, and our way of using our mind to make sense of and comprehend those experiences life brings our way. I will explore this avenue of thought more in-depth on next month’s blog.

John V. Jones, Jr., Ph.D., LPC-S/March 14, 2016

GENERAL ESSAY/PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING

The Quest for Meaning: Part I

[This discussion is the first of a three-part exploration of the human capacity for meaning-making. This article also continues a series I began in October, 2015. The series of articles as projected into the future will cover various themes that I explore with clients within the counseling framework I practice.]

Introduction

I propose a conjecture: As human beings, we are meaning-making creatures. No doubt the effort exerted toward making meaning of one’s life varies among individuals. Some people give it much thought; some would rather not think about it at all. And then there are those who are haunted by the search for meaning throughout their existence. Whether one’s quest for personal meaning ranks high or low in one’s day-to-day existence, no doubt most people can point to something or someone in which they place much value: family and loved ones, work and career, ethical and moral living, spiritual beliefs and God, etc. Such experiences and values can and do provide some kind of meaning in and purpose for people’s  lives. Within the existential framework I practice, exploration of personal meaning is an important theme that clients of all ages tend to engage. For some clients the search for meaning is a life-long process that for whatever reason they have sought to follow and hope to conquer. For many clients, the search for meaning is triggered by specific experiences they encounter in confronting life’s vicissitudes. Personally, I hold that meaning making is what makes us distinctively human.

A Variety of Themes

The approach I take to counseling is a philosophical one. Working within a general existential framework affords counselors a variety of themes on which to focus. Counselors who work within this perspective, not only vary in what each considers important themes, but also cannot obviously focus their practice in-depth on all the possible themes that existentialists and other philosophers explore. What tends to occur in practice is that different counselors choose areas of emphasis that interest them; consequently they focus their energy, reading and study efforts, and ways of working on those themes that tug at their own heart and soul for whatever reason. Rollo May stressed the role of anxiety in much of his work, and the courage to confront those struggles that produce anxiety – to face rather than avoid experiences that create anxiety. Irvin Yalom, particularly in his later works, focused on our finitude and coming to grips with the fact that we die. James Bugental centers his work on personal identity (who am I?) and living authentically. Emmy van Deurzen and followers of the British School frame their work from the perspective of the domains of existence: physical, social, personal, and spiritual, the latter dealing with meaning-making.

Our Search for Meaning

It was Viktor Frankl’s personal experiences that led him to emphasize in his work the need for making meaning in one’s life. Many therapists describe their work as challenging clients to make explicit the meaning they accord their lives. Likewise clients can embrace counseling to explore possible alternative meanings that can cast light on the various struggles they encounter. Many of us claim that we desire to live our lives in a way that holds meaning. Do we have what some existential thinkers call a why worth living? Might there be alternative sources of meaning in or for our lives? Counseling work that revolves around meaning might challenge clients to consider what feels right and what feels wrong in their world. Such feelings tend to revolve around what people value. Clients who engage such counseling work might explore what they value, and how they live out their values in their day-to-day lives. Such work folds into what some consider another existential them and exploration, clarifying values. I strongly believe that any counseling work that focuses on personal meaning-making cannot avoid discussions of what people value. Our personal values and deeply-held beliefs are bedrock foundations on which we construct our personal meanings for our lives. Frankl’s work, Man’s Search for Meaning, struck a deep cord with me that led me to work within an existential framework and to explore the various themes of existence, particularly meaning-making. Frankl’s work particularly focuses on suffering and meaning-making, and provides a conceptualization that much of the meaning we make in life comes through the struggles we face. Although most of us, thankfully, will not face the suffering Frankl encountered in Nazi concentration camps, his work and thought provides insights in how personal struggles can lead to deep personal meaning. Because I also come from a Christian perspective, his ideas about suffering and meaning resonate with me on a deep level.

Conclusion

This three-part series on human being’s capacity to make meaning in their lives through their personal experiences will unfold over the next few months, highlighting the work of Viktor Frankl, as well as others. More importantly, I hope the series will pique interests in those who might choose to engage counseling for the important work of exploring their personal meaning. As human beings, I believe we seek to make meaning regarding our existence. We operate off assumptions about what is meaningful to us, what is purposeful for us, and what is valuable and important to us. Those who enter counseling can explore their deeply held beliefs, core values, and the living out of what all these mean for them. I hope this three-part series on the Quest for Meaning leads people to explore what for them might be most important in their lives.

So stay tuned for the next couple of months .  .  .

John V. Jones, Jr., Ph.D., LPC-S/February 14, 2016

PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING

The Quest for Certainty

Introduction

Even in this skeptical age, I think it would be a safe bet to claim that many people still value a search for the truth. Obviously throughout the centuries debates have raged over the question: What is truth? How do we know when we have found the truth of something? How can be sure that we, in fact, possess the truth? People like to play the self-stultifying word game, everything is relative, yet they despise lies, betrayal, and deceit. As well, we most likely have all struggled with the question surrounding truth and its possession. Well, believe it or not, I’m NOT going to continue with the philosophical exploration of the question, what is truth?. I’m not going to try to resolve the dialectic of absolutism versus relativity. As someone who believes in the notion of truth, I do, however, want to explore what some call the quest for certainty. And particularly how such a quest relates to the notion of change is something that has always interested me. Change is something that is scary for many people. The quest for certainty most definitely has an upside, yet when it seeks to look in the face of existence that is constant change so as to negate it, that is when it carries a dangerous downside.

The Desire to Know

The upside in the quest for certainty is most readily witnessed when it translates into the desire for knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. The desire to know, to be sure about certain things has spawned creativity in human activity and interaction across various fields of endeavor, including philosophy, the sciences, and the arts. Whether it’s the practicality in solving certain problems or simply the deep satisfaction of exploring the unknown, these various fields of endeavor are peoples’ stance on how they have come to understand the human condition, as well as the universe in which human beings find themselves. I believe one should hope that whatever conditions exist, such quests never cease to exist. Such desire for knowledge, understanding, and wisdom is the basis for how civilizations come about. Hopefully, there will always be those who possess that sense of awe and wonder regarding ourselves and the universe in which we exist that lead them to never rest, to never cease, in the pursuit of knowledge. Is this a Faustian heart? Then so be it. We can have it without making a deal with Mephistopheles.

Life as Change

If there’s one thing that seems to be certain about us, it’s that we change across time. Change is an experience that can be painful and scary. Think of the phrase, growing pangs. We grow. We develop physically, mentally, and spiritually. Although genetics has much to say about some of our development, we also make choices as to how we grow in all these areas. Certainty and change can appear at first glance to be diametrically opposed. Can we find certainty in the face of change? I guess one way to think about this paradox is to reflect on the fact that I am the same person who was born in 1947, yet I have changed over the many years that have followed that birth. In one sense, I’m that person, yet I’m not the same person at all. I am reminded of Thomas Wolfe’s You Can’t Go Home Again.

While the upside of the quest for certainty is its translation into the desire to know and to understand, the downside of the quest is when it is used in the hope for a false sense of security, particularly securing one against the fear of change. There are simply a lot of things about living where we have to admit that we lack certainty. I watched my dad go through much uncertainty when the plant that manufactured oil well equipment for which he worked shut down in the 1970’s. He was out of work for about a year. Those supposedly secure jobs don’t last forever like we hope. Marriages don’t last for a lifetime like we hope. We watch loved ones grow old and eventually attend their funerals. We are reminded that we too grow old and the cemetery is our destination as well. When the quest for certainty is a quest for some foundation that wards off the unknowns in living, then we are asking too much for our finite knowledge. People refuse to take risks because they want guarantees. Change is the great unknown. Sometimes an entire country of people wake up one morning, and their currency is worthless; their economy and means for carving out a living for themselves are gone. Change is an unknown frontier, and it is ominous and frightening at times. A quest for certainty in our day-to-day living that alters that reality is not a quest we will complete. It is a quest fraught with depression and anxiety, fear of the unknown, the hope for absolute guarantees.

Yet we can embrace change as an exciting possibility. We can engage that continuum we are on between who we are now and the potential of who we can become. Think about it this way. Life is change. If you stop changing, you’re not alive. Change does not have to mean that we can’t discover truths. It for sure doesn’t mean that we cannot gain in knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. Indeed, I would venture, expanding on the notion of the one thing that is certain is change, that, in our finite existence, what we don’t know in infinitely greater than what we do know. But we can continue to seek knowledge. But in seeking knowledge, understanding, and wisdom, perhaps what we should not seek is a guarantee that we can be certain of all that life will throw at us, that we can stay the uncertainties of living.

Conclusion

What am I not saying? For sure, I’m not saying that we cannot discover truths, and ways of living that can enhance or existence. In response to the above examples I gave, we can garner wisdom in how to plan for possibly unplanned unemployment. For sure, we can pursue economic knowledge that protects our way of living. We can embrace what it means to mature, grow older, and what that means for our later years of existence. But if one’s quest for certainty is to totally conquer the unknown and the anxiety it engenders, then all I can say is good luck. A life of knowledge, understanding, and wisdom can indeed help us embrace and live with the reality of what we do know, as well as what we don’t know.

John V. Jones, Jr., PhD, LPC-S/January 14, 2016

GENERAL ESSAY

A Remedy at Christmas: Solitude & Quiet

Introduction

As 2015 comes to a close, I’m going Lite for the final Blog this year. I simply want to address this time of year, a way I’ve found to avoid the hype of the “holidays”, and to encourage those who feel the need to slow down, be still, and who desire to truly enjoy the Spirit of Christmas. I love the Christmas Season, yet I detest the hype and excessive materialism that come with it. There’s a feel good in the air that comes with Christmas as well, but I think at times you have to cut through a lot of nonsense to get to and embrace it. I believe that’s getting more and more difficult to accomplish these days. Having been blessed with loving and wonderful parents, I’m old school because during the Christmas Season, we put on the hot chocolate, decorated the tree, and listened to Bing Crosby records. We put the gifts under the tree, dreading the day we would have to dismantle it and say good-bye to the Christmas Season for another year. While I enjoyed shopping with mom, I never felt like we got caught up in the hustle-and-bustle that can wipe out what the time of year is truly about. There are a multitude of good ways to avoid the crass materialism that can quite frankly make this time of year ugly – think of financial anxieties, keeping on top of every new gadget that comes available, not to mention the exponential increase in highway traffic. It may seem impossible, but there are a multitude of good ways to circumvent all the nonsense thrown at us during this time of year. Good budgeting, taking more time with family, avoid the rush hours of shopping madness, and finding ways to slow down, embrace simplicity, enjoy solitude and quietness are a few remedies that come to mind for me. It’s really not all that difficult to remain far from the madding crowd. Yet we simply tend not to search for ways to separate from the craziness. For this article, I want to focus on solitude and quiet.

Solitude & Quiet in a Fast-Paced Culture

Solitude and quiet have taken a hit to the chin these days in a politicized culture that has come to view relationship as the core of everything, has propagandized group think to the extent that it has become a new religion, and has diagnosed or caricatured those who are not so comfortable with sacrosanct group think as social phobics, bathed in snobbery, or just downright selfishness. If you like your alone time, then something is wrong with you. The task at hand, it seems, is to address what solitude is, as well as what it is not. I love my alone time. I value and guard it with extreme prejudice. To some degree, much more than other people I know, I consider myself a loner, thereby creating more solitude for myself than others might desire. Each person has to figure how much solitude he or she needs. Solitude does not mean, however, disliking other people or devaluing relationships. It simple means that one values what can be garnered during quiet and reflective times. Such contemplative times allow one to slow down, gear the pace of life down to a reasonable speed, and reflect on what is truly valuable. I’m not sure our culture places a value on solitude, yet I believe it’s an important remedy to counter the hectic way of living that can come with our fast-paced society in an age that must find ways to deal with rapid advances of technology, global connections, and exponential increases in new knowledge. All these advances can be something valuable to us all, yet they can also create a maddening pace of existence. Solitude and quiet come as part of a contemplative way of living. I believe time for contemplation in life is important, and it does not discount or negate the importance of being active toward life. Indeed, contemplation sets the foundation for me to engage living and all it involves, including work, colleagues, friendships, and loved ones. Rather than discounting relationships, our solitude and alone time can help us more fully engage them. Solitude and quiet does not mean that one turns into a monk, anchorite, or troglodyte. I’m not saying that the remedy of solitude and quiet entails isolation and becoming ensconced in the life of a hermit. Simply find some time that is right for you, that allows you to slow down the pace, reflect on what is important, get things aligned so that you can engage what life throws at you and all of us. Although some people love their solitude and alone time, others fear it for various reasons. Think of what it must be like to fear being alone with oneself.

When I get alone, sometimes I spend my time with a book. Other times, I might listen to some jazz, my John Coltrane station on Pandora, for instance. And then still other times, I want complete quiet. Early in the morning or late at night are good times for me. The traffic in Austin, Texas is already a nightmare, but at this time of year it is exponentially terrible. Sometimes I can see the hectic, crazed, and distorted looks on people’s faces as they drive and go about their business in places like grocery stores, restaurants or gift shops. My own take is that we turn this time of season into the madness it is, rather than the thankful time is should be, because of conformity and group think, rather than being centered in who we are and knowing what we truly value. My take on solitude and quiet is a thought. Solitude and quiet are part of what historically have been called the spiritual disciplines. These are disciplines that can help us more readily engage a time of year that celebrates spirituality. Hopefully it can be of encouragement to those of you who want to see this time disconnect from the insanity we create keeping in pace with the madding crowd.

Conclusion

That madding crowd is all around us. We can easily become part of it. Yet it’s not that difficult to disconnect from it if we put a little effort toward that goal. Some simple time alone can take the sting out of what the culture throws at us. Turn of the TV, block out the noise, and shut down the computer – after you have read this blog :). Get alone with yourself, reflect on what is truly important and valuable to you, and find more ways to build whatever that is into your day-to-day living.

I hope the year closes down in a good way for you. To those of you who have crossed the path of this blog, Merry Christmas to you all.

John V. Jones, Jr., PhD, LPC-S/December 14, 2015

GENERAL ESSAY

Part II: Complexity, Paradox, & Tension

[Part II: Complexity, Paradox, & Tension continues with series of articles that I hope to do provide over the next few months, discussing the various themes that emerge in a therapeutic setting that entails working within an existential framework.]

Introduction

Complexity, Paradox, & Tension continues a discussion I began last month, (10/14/15), that explored and commented on the many dilemmas we face in our day-to-day living. In that first article, I delineated a few of the dilemmas we might encounter. Many times, it is these very dilemmas that bring clients into therapy, or more accurately, the dilemmas may be behind the problems that clients bring to a therapeutic setting. The second part of this discussion looks at what it may entail to work with clients (and ourselves) who struggle with various tensions that make up existence. Obviously, there are many more complexities and paradoxes we encounter than the few listed and discussed in Part I of this series. As explored last month, life appears to involve a navigation between the various poles of the paradoxes and tensions that make up life’s strugglesWe want to resolve them because they produce various levels of anxiety within us. We want to come to grips with them so we can feel to be on solid ground; yet, if we settle on one pole of these tensions at the negation of the other pole, we can find ourselves feeling imbalanced, out of kilter, and not as on solid ground as we had hoped for.

Working with Clients

The upshot of all this discussion about complexities, paradoxes, and tensions is that psychotherapy, many times, involves working with clients simply to help them live with the tensions of existence, rather than seeking to resolve them too quickly. I believe that if we, as therapists, do not look into how we, ourselves, face such tensions, and how we might have gained some insight in doing so, we have little to offer our clients. Just like us, our clients want the tensions resolved so as to alleviate question marks and anxiety that surround or emanate from them. We all want quick fixes to the dilemmas that make up life. It is not easy to reach that place where we simply recognize and embrace the reality that quick fixes and simple answers are not forthcoming for many of our struggles, especially with those things in life that are most important to us. Having to live with tensions, rather than getting rid of them, is not necessarily a welcomed perspective on living. Yet doing so – embracing the necessity of doing so – can lead to a deeper understanding of how to navigate life, as well as a fuller understanding of ourselves. We will come to learn about ourselves through our struggles with the dilemmas of existence. Learning to ride out and go through longer resolutions to problems can teach us a lot about ourselves.

Consequently, there are no simple formulas or patented techniques to work with clients who are facing the tensions inherent in existence. In the environments of professional counseling we hear phrases all the time, such as: being with clients as they wrestle with their problems, sitting with clients through their struggles, providing a place for clients to face their dilemmas. Such phrases can sound, and actually be voiced in ways that are trite; but they need to be more than mere bromides. No doubt, we all want someone to provide us with an answer when we’re facing major difficulties in life. The answer may very well be – we simply have to ride them out. I’m not saying at all that we can’t help clients solve some particular problems they face, or suggest ways to deal with specific situations in which they may find themselves. Paradoxes, however, that involve such experiences as wanting certainty in the face of the unknown, coming to grips with a solid sense of who we are while also recognizing that we are constantly changing, or trying to garner meaning out of experiences that seem or feel meaningless – these struggles lend themselves to no formulaic approach, but instead call on us to recognize that they are a part of our existence with which we have to deal. And they tend to be the struggles through which we can learn a great deal about ourselves and others.

Action versus Contemplation

Life is always about growth, never being totally settled. That doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t find a place and a time where we can rest from the daily pressures that life brings our way. But restoration gears us up for the continuing struggles that life throws at us. The notion of life involving continuous struggles generates yet another tension: action (taking on the struggle so as to resolve it) versus contemplation (stepping back, slowing down, letting things be, taking time for reflection). Personally, this is a hard tension for me to navigate. How do we take on the struggles of life – fight – while at the same time recognizing that there are times to take things in stride, letting them be as they are for the moment. Camping on one pole of this polarity can lead to a harried, constantly keyed-up take on living, while camping on the other pole can become an excuse for acquiescence. Most of us would probably agree that we desire neither a harried way of living or a giving-in or giving-up to the struggle to create the kind of life we want for ourselves. Navigating the tension to face the struggle while living with the results of our efforts is a navigation with which we must deal and work out so as to find our peace, even in the midst of the storm. It appears that somewhere in the tension between these poles is where personal understanding and growth take place.

Conclusion

I do not deny that therapy entails helping clients problem-solve specific concerns, work through phobias, deal with problematic relationships, and struggle with certain symptoms they experience. I believe, however, that even these experiences speak to something that entails a bigger picture in living. And I believe with firm conviction that the richer work of therapy can involve working with people to help them find a way to face the paradoxes inherent in life so as to find deeper meaning for themselves. I believe that if we simply rely on throwing techniques and pills at people, we do them a disservice. The tendency to oversimplify life is a strong one because pat-answers are attractive and seductive. They are the seductions and power that produce all kinds of gurus. It’s much less sexy to say that life is composed of dilemmas we face, and there are necessarily no simple answers in facing them. Life is a struggle at times. Embrace those times when it is not, enjoy them, for we rarely know what the morning brings.

Although it’s not easy at times, I likewise deeply believe that living a meaningful, fulfilling, and enriching life is possible.

John V. Jones, Jr., Ph.D., LPC-S/November 14, 2015

PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING

Part I: Complexity, Paradox, & Tension

[Part one of a two-part discussion on Complexity, Paradox, & Tension. This article also begins a series of articles I will write over the next several months on various themes that can be explored through counseling from an existential framework.]

Introduction

When people ask me what is involved in working as a counselor who works within the framework of an existential approach, it’s never an easy task to reduce what I do to a simplistic answer. Sometimes I wish I could, but then I think, why should I? From my perspective engaging clients in a counseling setting is about life and all it brings our way, so there are no easy explanations of what such work entails. Additionally, many counselors who work within an existential framework focus their work in different areas or themes. Some might describe existential therapy as helping clients clarify values and live life authentically. Others might say their work entails helping clients garner courage to face adversity and personal struggle. Still others might describe what they do as helping clients take responsibility for and accepting the consequences that result from their choices.

What I have said here so far are only a few of the ways in which an existential approach to therapy can be described. There are many others, and interested readers unfamiliar with an existential approach might want to read some introductory works, such as Existential Therapy: 100 Key Points & Techniques, by Susan Iacovou and Karen Weixel-Dixon, or The Existential Counseling Primer: A Concise, Accessible, Comprehensive Introduction by Mick Cooper. Although there are a variety of ways of delineating how existential therapists might work, and an array of themes on which they might focus, there is one theme which I want to emphasize in this and next month’s blog. In their work the authors, Iacovou & Weixel-Dixon, describe one emphasis in existential therapy as working with clients to help them experience what it is to be human in all its complexity. Complexity is indeed an interesting concept, and one I want to explore a little further.

The Interrelation of Complexity, Paradox, & Tension
The use of language is an interesting phenomenon in-and-of-itself. We throw around words all the time with the assumption that people understand what we mean, or at least understand that some conversations can’t go beyond a statement we throw out. Things are not so simple; they are more complex, meaning don’t ask me to explain something in simple terms. So one thing I want to say upfront is that when this little paragraph is finished, I will not have come anywhere near unpacking the notion of complexity, but I hope to knock a few chips out of the rock. And I hope to do that, not only by exploring the notion of complexity, but also through exploring two concepts that tend to contribute to, or go hand-in-hand with complexity, paradox and tension.

When we talk about humanity and all its complexity, how might such a concept be delineated, explicated, or described? When working with clients to help them embrace the complexity of living what might such work look like in a counseling setting? The first thing that comes to mind for me when I hear the word, or reflect on the concept of complexity, is that life offers no simple answers to its multitude and variety of dilemmas. Life is composed of numerous problems on various levels that we must solve, or attempt to solve, everyday. Some problems, in fact, may be simple, but others are more enduring. The idea of the complexity of living says to me that there are no simple answers to the profound problems and questions in life that we face. It follows that there are no quick answers to these problems, questions, or dilemmas either. Total resolution of all dilemmas in life just may not be part of fruitful living. What bewilders us about the complexities we face in life is that many times those complexities comprise paradoxes we are trying to resolve toward one pole or the other. Do I make a choice that entails caution and security? Or do I step out risk the unknown? There is no necessarily “good” or “bad” pole to this choice except that which we have to clarify in our personal context of choosing. At times, we may have to navigate the poles involved in our dilemmas in a way that, instead of resolving them, holds them in tension. There are times to be cautious and times to take risks. Living in a way that involves different levels of fulfillment may mean that we have to learn to live with the tensions and paradoxes of existence. We may have to live with the reality that some dilemmas in life have to simply exist for a while as we struggle with them over time. Learning to set with – be with – a lack of total resolution for some dilemmas in our lives is part and parcel of living. The profound problems or dilemmas we face in life call for no simplistic understanding; they call, instead, for struggle across time, more time than we may want to give them for sure. They also call for no avoidance or circumvention. Seeking to avoid, or simply not face up to, the complexities, paradoxes, and tensions in life, typically yields consequences that we were hoping to avoid via our avoidance. Invariably, such a strategy fails.

Paradoxes in Living

What are some of these complexities, dilemmas, or paradoxes that we face in our day-to-day living? I’ll delineate some common ones, but they are numerous, probably to the point of being countless. Certainty versus Facing the Unknown. We all want answers to the perplexities that challenge us. Many times we want all our ducks lined up before we step out into living as though such a line of ducks will quack so as let us know what to do at every step. This paradox can be explained with other polarities: guarantees versus taking risks; assurance versus courage to risk. No doubt, blind and foolish leaps are precarious, but risks averse assurance is a promise no one person can offer another.

Meaning versus Experiences that Seem Meaningless and Absurd. We are meaning-making creatures. We encounter experiences of living, seek to interpret them, and imbue them with some sort of meaning for ourselves. Although I do not embrace the thought of some existentialists that life is absurd and meaningless, I likewise do not believe that making meaning for our lives is an easy, simple task. We sometimes go through experiences that may take a lifetime to comprehend. Within our finite existence, we may not make total sense of everything that happens to us. Perhaps some can avoid seeking to make meaning in their lives. I’m not sure I totally believe that. But for many, the nagging question of why regarding certain circumstances never lets them out of its grip. To seek to make meaning of such circumstances is part of being human; however, to demand from life all the answers is something we do not have the power to do. The struggle to find that rest in the tension between making meaning and lacking clarity regarding what we experience at times is one such struggle we all face.

Solid Sense of Self versus Growth & Change through Experiences. I believe that on some level, we are all seeking to know who we are, to establish some sense of personal identity, and to stand on a rock-solid understanding of ourselves. Yet at the same time, life calls on us to grow, which means to change. We encounter various experiences in our existence that lead us to question and alter what we might have possibly believed and valued. This navigation of having a sense of self and experiencing growth and change is one we can welcome or fear. As we expand our horizons and grow, we may have to make painful choices regarding what we had once held dear.

Freedom and Responsibility versus Limitations to Freedom. I believe it was Rollo May, who stated that this dilemma or paradox should be placed on a coin, with freedom on one side and responsibility on the other. No doubt at times we want our ability to choose, but we do not relish the consequences that come with some of the choices we make, preferring to avoid them all together. The courage to fully and truly embrace freedom and responsibility is more complex and difficult than we might really think. One of the major difficulties in life, I believe, is facing the consequences we have rendered via our choices, not only for ourselves, but also for others. Embracing our freedom and responsibility entails our interaction and maintaining tension with another pole of our existence: built-in limitations to our freedom. While, as human beings, we make choices and are responsible for our choices, we are not free to do anything we please, nor are we free from the given boundaries in which we find ourselves living. I did not choose the time in which I was born. I chose neither my family nor the culture in which I lived. I had no say in the biological and genetic framework in which my existence is cast. As a man who is bald, I don’t even have a choice as to whether or not I have a naturally full head of hair. Upon developing my conscious existence, I find that I am cast in a context over which I had little to nothing to do. Existentialists call these the givens of life. Existentialists also speak of the thrown-ness of life. We find ourselves thrown into an existence, not of our choosing or making. Yet, the one important choice we do have is our response to our conditions. We can become embittered through our responses and reactions to our conditions, or we can encounter them with courage to take from them what we can so as to fruitfully live our existence the best we can. As an example, I might relish the notion of being a mathematical genius, and while I’ve done well in math throughout my life, I’m a far cry from having the skills in math that I would almost covet to possess. I can hate my existence for that reason, or embrace those skills I do have and face the reality of what I don’t possess. Viktor Frankl spoke poignantly of this tension when he was thrust into Nazi concentration camps. He made the powerful point in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, that when we have everything taken from us, one thing remains that cannot be stolen from us: our response to the conditions in which we find ourselves. One of the human struggles in existence involves this constant tension between the power and freedom we would like to have over life versus the recognition of the built-in limitations we face in our existence. Although such limitations may mean we cannot have or do anything we want, they do not mean we cannot choose to face up to them with courage and integrity.

Finite Existence versus Desire to Live. From the perspective of my spiritual values, I will have a different take on this as opposed to some others within the existential camp; nonetheless, I get the struggle. No one wants to die. I also understand that spiritual values themselves can be used to escape the raw realities of living this life as it is now. Consequently, I fully embrace the idea within existentialism that we, as human beings, have to come to grips with the fact that one day we will face death. In doing so, we can energize and enhance this time we have for living. We can put off living trying to avoid the reality of death, and we can put off living by casting everything on an “afterlife”. Both strategies are an avoidance of living the life we have, or, as I believe, have been given.

Obviously, there are numerous other paradoxes we face in addition to these five, that I’ve merely presented as examples of tensions we may face in life. How might we think about navigating these paradoxes?

Maintaining the Tension

There is everything human in experiencing the exigency of hoping to resolve the deeper struggles inherent in carving out a meaningful life. For sure, life appears to be a navigation between these various poles or tensions – these paradoxes – that make up life’s complex struggles. We want to resolve these tensions because they produce various levels of anxiety within us. We hope to come to grips with these paradoxes so we can feel as if we have reached some solid ground in our understanding of things. Yet if we camp on one pole of a paradox at the negation of the other, we soon feel imbalanced, out of kilter, and not on as solid of ground as we hoped for. Yes, there is a sense in which I am an individual, but I am also in relationship with others, with society, and a culture. Yes, I have a sense of identity, who I am, but I am also in the continuous process of change and growth. Yes, I have freedom of choice and bear the responsibility that comes with those choices, yet I also face the limits of my choosing, the givens into which I have been thrown. And yes, I desire to live, but must come to grips with being finite. Maintaining these tensions, rather than trying to resolve them, I believe, plays the largest role, not in just coming to grips with them, but also in being at rest with them.

Conclusion to Part I: Simplicity versus Simplistic
We would prefer simplistic answers to the various struggles we face because we want to resolve them quickly. They are emotionally draining at times, and produce wear and tear upon us that we prefer to avoid. But the complexities of living will not necessarily yield to simplistic answers. Yet there is another way we might think of simplicity that can help us live with the tensions of existence. Richard Foster delineates the spiritual discipline of simplicity in his work, Freedom and Simplicity: Finding Harmony in a Complex World. One of the things he states rather pointedly is that the spiritual discipline of simplicity does not entail being simplistic about life. For sure, this spiritual discipline is not offered as a pat-answer to the complexities of life, for there are no pat-answers.

Next month, Part II of Complexity, Paradox, & Tension will look into what all this might mean for working with clients as a counselor who works within an existential framework.

John V. Jones, Jr, Ph.D., LPC-S/October 14, 2015

PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING

Taking on the Information Age

Introduction

One day last week, unfortunately, an individual lost his life in a fatal car crash on the street where I live. The wreck involved the taking down of a power pole, and most people on my street, including the entire complex in which my condominium is located, were without power. The power outage was short-lived, lasting nearly 90 minutes. In an all-electric home the loss of power meant I had no lights, no fridge, no AC, no TV, and, of course, no Internet. Several of us actually walked outside to check if other people had power. An interesting phenomena occurred. I began talking to people whom I hadn’t even met in the number of years I’ve lived in the complex. Of course, none of us knew what had happened, so we were not aware that someone had lost his life. We just knew we were without power. On reflection, I wonder if we learned anything once we knew the entire story. Reflection is an interesting word, and an experience that involves more than our simply moving through life everyday without knowing what life entails.

Last month’s blog article, The Call of the Spiritual Disciplines, addressed the overwhelming amount of information that stands at our disposal via the technology age in which we exist. People tend to voice two common responses to this reality that comes at us from what is now referred to as the WEB. Some view it as a drain on our mind, time, and relationships, and tend to designate the information age as downright evil. One is reminded of the reactions of the Luddites to the industrial age. Others view it as a scientific marvel (which it is) that will bring peace and prosperity to all and save us from ourselves (which it will not). Those in the former camp want to step into a time machine and go back to the good ol’ days, whatever that mean; while those in the latter camp view science as mankind’s savior. Personally, I do not want to sound the war drum of either camp. As I stated in last month’s article, I’m thankful for my computer, the Internet, and would not want to face life  without modern technology for the most part.

Anxiety, as a part of human living, has most likely increased, however, due to the Information Age. Daily we are faced with the onslaught of more information than we can handle. We are given the task to process and transform that information into practical knowledge, that in turn, can be transformed into personal wisdom, if we wish to accomplish such a task. Yet how we accomplish such a task depends on how we take our stance towards the age in which we stand. As in any human endeavor, we are faced with our finitude and limitations when we realize that massive amounts of information do not help us know it all. We hit the wall of our limitation by the sheer amount of information that it lies at our fingertips. Not only can we not know it all, but also, we can’t even encounter it all. Constantly we hear people voice opinions on what they read on the WEB. Is the information reliable? Did they check their facts via several sources? Did they cherry pick the information they want to back up something they already believe? On and on these questions can haunt us – not only about other people’s use of the WEB, but also our own.

Personally, I believe taking on the Information Age, rather than calling for an end to information and technology and our retreating back in time, instead calls on us more than ever to seek wisdom in how we go about living. Mountains of information do not put an end to the need of our living wisely; it calls on us to be that much wiser in terms of how we even confront the information available to us. One of the spiritual disciplines I touched upon in last month’s blog involves the discipline of study. It is not the only discipline that can help us become wise, but it’s an important one. What does the discipline of study entail?

A Contemplative Approach to Life

Slow down you movin’ too fast/you gotta make the morning last .  .  . begins Paul Simon’s 59th Street Bridge Song, most likely known by most as, Feelin’ Groovy. One of the most onerous mistakes about the contemplative life is the notion that such a life entails simply sitting around contemplating, but never acting. Nothing could be further from the truth. An individual who takes a contemplative approach to life, reflects in order to act, but to act wisely as possible. I, for one, am thankful for the Information Age and all it provides us for which to make decisions. Yet there comes a point where we have to know the limit on all the information we can garner, process, and use for fruitful living. More than ever, the Information Age calls on us to embrace a more contemplative approach to life. The stream of information available to us is increasing everyday with no indication that its flood is slowing down; but human beings can move and process only so fast. As useful and beneficial as it is in doing things for us, the one thing that technology can do to us is separate us from our heart and soul of what it is to be human so we can say to ourselves enough is enough. There comes a time to slow down, stop, reflect, and then decide what course of action to take. There is never enough information; we can always believe and feel we need more. But for certain, there can be too much information that keeps us in a quicksand of data out of which we can’t wade to get onto the solid ground of living.

Richard Foster, in his book, Celebration of Discipline, discusses what through the centuries contemplatives called the spiritual disciplines. One such discipline he discusses is the discipline of study. Obviously, when we think of studying, we think of books and written information. And this form of information is one the main objects of study. According to Foster, however, there are several objects of study. We can also study nature via simple observation. Paul Simon’s simple little tune speaks of watching the flowers grow. We can find that time in our daily lives – or carve it out if need be – to slow down and simply encounter what is. We can study ourselves, becoming aware of what our feelings and mood swings mean. What controls us and our moods? What do our actions tend to claim we value? Are we aware of our values? We can study institutions and cultures, ponder the current happenings of our day, compare our personal values to what appear to be cultural values that perhaps we have inculcated. We can study human relationships, become attentive to various kinds of relationships that make up our lives, and reflect on what we value about relationships. There are a myriad of things, in addition to books, that provide information for us to contemplate and with which to come to terms.

No doubt, in the Information Age, our primary focus becomes information from books, or these days, the WEB. And we definitely need a disciplined approach to such vast amounts of information calling for our attention. Foster delineates four steps in the discipline of study: repetition, concentration, comprehension, and reflection. These four steps make up the how of the discipline of study. Even more, I appreciate Foster’s explanation of the what of study when he describes the discipline as careful attention to reality. And the why of study falls in line with the overall purpose of the spiritual disciplines, which Foster claims is the total transformation of the person. In this day of information overload, we need to take a stand that we, in being human, must maintain who we are and define how technology fits into who we are, rather than letting technology define who and what we are.

Repetition

Repetition, as one part of the discipline of study, is about ingraining habits. Personally, I know that because I love to read, I can fall into the bad habit of reading for merely amassing information, believing that the mere reading of anything is the my ultimate goal, rather than reflecting on what I have read. Likewise, reading something repetitively slows one down so that the information begins to sink in, and the habit of reading in a disciplined manner begins to take shape. The act of repetition focuses the mind on what is being read again and again. In terms of a spiritual discipline, such an act is seen throughout the centuries in monasteries, temples, and other venues of retreat where individuals tend to take time to study and reflect on anything. Monks and others who sought a contemplative life utilized repetitive reading through what they called Lectio Divina, or divine reading. Christian writer, James Sire, has written a work that addresses this form of reading, entitled How to Read Slowly. The spiritual exercise of Lectio Divina involves reading a passage of a sacred text over and over until one’s mind formed around it in a way that the reading became part of one’s soul. Hence, the information being read was viewed as something that had to become part of one’s soul, spirit, – life. It also involved slow reading. I realize such an activity is not one we can choose to do in all occasions and circumstances because of the demands of work, different goals, and other deadlines in this modern age. I do believe, however, it is an activity that needs to be worked back into our daily routines to help us slow down, contemplate, and reflect before making major decisions and taking action.

Concentration

Building on repetition, concentration as a step in the discipline of study, centers the mind, focusing one’s attention on what one is studying. Science has shown us what people within spiritual enclaves have experientially known for centuries: the mind possesses an incredible power to concentrate. Yet we have to train our minds to develop such an ability. Concentration offers one what Foster calls singleness of purpose, a centering of the mind, or what we tend to call focus. As I stated above, many times I find myself reading to be reading, to get done with the task of reading, but without focusing on what I’m reading. Repetition and concentration can help us accomplish a fuller use of our reading ability, enriching what we read and study. I agree with Foster that we live in our culture that does not value concentration. That fact combined with the waves of information that we face everyday turns our personal worlds into a mental chaos. I love to read, but sometimes I find myself lost, staring at my bookcase, wondering what I should read, lacking any sense of order as to what I’m trying to accomplish in my own living. True concentration may have become a lost art in our culture. The very contexts in which we live wages a war with our need to live contemplatively.

Comprehension

Comprehension is simply understanding what we are studying. We arrive at comprehension through focusing our mind repeatedly, centering our mind and attention on our study, and eventually, in coming to understand what we are studying, we arrive at a new level of comprehension. How many times might we have read something, even studied it to some extent, but feel we have not reached a new level of understanding? With repetition and concentration, we can read something over and over, and then experience that quantum leap of suddenly getting at what something means. Some people call such an aha experience an epiphany that places one on a new level of personal growth and freedom. Such a level of understanding is what we tend to call insight or discernment that provides us with a truer perception of reality.

Reflection

One might think that comprehension is the final step in the discipline of study. As Foster states, however, one further step is necessary in rounding out this discipline: reflection. This step allows us to see the significance of what we are studying. Reflection allows us to ruminate on what we have read and studied. It rounds out our understanding, not only of what we’ve studied, but ourselves as well. Anything worth our study says something about us – why it is useful to us – why it is important to us – why it is meaningful to us. This final step gets at the impact of what the spiritual discipline of study does for us. As Foster states, the purpose of the spiritual disciplines is personal transformation. The discipline of study leads to our becoming wiser about the world, others, and ourselves. The accumulation of massive amounts of information does not equate with knowledge; nor does the spouting of what one knows regarding information equate to wisdom. The philosopher of science, Karl Popper, believed that we need to become more enamored with what we don’t know that with what we think we know. He basically embraced the notion that our ignorance is infinitely greater than our knowledge of things. Foster, likewise, states that the discipline of study requires humility. We come before something to study it, not because we are knowledgeable or wise, but because we seek knowledge and wisdom. If we are to take the time to carry on an in-depth study of anything, should we forsake this final step in the discipline of study to ascertain the significance of what it is we study?

Conclusion

What I have explored on this monthly blog relates to counseling in many ways. I will let readers search that out for themselves. Importantly, I think what I’ve discussed here relates to much of living, and how we go about living. I want to add one caveat, however. If we’re going to reflect on the need to slow down, I do believe there are times to simply read for the purpose of enjoyment, enrichment, and the experience of another person’s talent in writing. I think of reading poetry, a short story, or a novel. In this information age there’s a time to kick back. Everything we read is simply not about study. But I also believe that the habits we form can help us even make those times a more enriched experience.

In closing, I return to the experience that opened this blog article. The experience took me back to simpler times, growing up at a time when my family possessed no TV or AC, and of course it was before the time of personal computers. I remember going outside to sit under a shade tree to get cool in the summers when I was out of school, and it actually worked. I also remember reading books under those shade trees, books with stories I remember to this day. As I’ve stated several times, I’m not a Luddite. I don’t own nor want to own a time machine. I value all that technology has brought our way. And technology is but one of the myriad of ways we can become lost to our being human and recognizing what is important in this life. Sometimes we just need to slow down, take a step back, focus, center, concentrate, and reflect – on all that is significant in our lives.

[Last month and this month’s blog article drew from the Christian author, Richard J. Foster. (Source: Foster, R. J. (1978). Celebration of Discipline: The Path to Spiritual Growth. HarpCollins Publishers, San Francisco.)]

John V. Jones, Jr., Ph.D., LPC-S/September 14, 2015

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